The Perspective Shift That Changes Everything

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Why Your Life Might Not Suck … Your Thinking Does

You ever notice how some people seem weirdly content, even though their life, from the outside, doesn’t look “better” than yours?

They don’t earn more. They’re not living in Bali. They’re not dating a supermodel. They still wake up, make coffee, go to work.

But they radiate calmth. Focus. and even joy.

And you? You’re exhausted, unmotivated, bored out of your mind AND doing “everything right.”

Here's the truth: You don’t need a new life. You need a new lens.

This blog is about how a tiny shift in your perspective can completely change how your current life feels, without changing your job, location, or bank account!!!!

Let’s crack it wide open.

2. UNDERSTANDING THE CORE ISSUE

Most people are chasing the wrong thing.

They think the answer to their problems is external: A better job. A six-pack. A move to another city. A better partner. More money. More freedom. More validation.

But the real issue isn’t the life they’re living…It’s the way they interpret and experience it.

Let me explain.

There’s a system in your brain called the Reticular Activating System (RAS).

It filters information, out of millions of inputs per second, and shows you only what you believe is important.

If you’ve trained your mind to see:

·       What’s missing

·       What’s wrong

·       What’s stressful

Then guess what? That’s all your RAS will serve you.

You wake up already anxious. You see reasons to feel behind. You miss the micro-pleasures of your day because you’re scanning for problems.

Your nervous system becomes addicted to dopamine-chasing: Checking your phone. Daydreaming of a new life. Over-consuming content. Looking for “that next big thing.”

And here’s the killer:

“What you focus on, grows. What you repeat, you become.”

If you keep reinforcing a lens of lack, boredom, or frustration, your brain literally wires it in. This is neuroplasticity. The more you think a certain way, the easier it becomes to think that way again.

It becomes your identity: “I’m just unmotivated.” “I’m stuck.” “I need a big change.”

No, you don’t. You need a pattern interrupt. A shift in how you experience your life.

3. BREAKING IT DOWN: KEY AREAS OF IMPACT

Here’s how this shift plays out:

• Your Morning

Most people: wake up in a hurry, check their phone, immediately feel behind.With a shift: wake up, focus on breath, set a clear intention, notice the peace in the quiet.

• Your Work

Most people: see tasks as “chores,” meetings as “annoying,” goals as “far away.”With a shift: view your work as training, discipline reps, skill building, leadership practice.

• Your Body

Most people: exercise only to “burn fat” or “fix” something.With a shift: use movement to connect with strength, energy, clarity. Train like a weapon.

• Your Relationships

Most people: wait to feel “seen,” complain, expect energy from others.

With a shift: show up. Express. Appreciate. Give what you want to receive.

The moment you change the meaning you attach to what you're doing….the same life becomes a completely different experience…

4. HOW TO APPLY THIS IN REAL LIFE

Let’s keep it real.

This isn’t just some mindset trick.

It’s how you train your nervous system to experience more joy, power, and presence in what you already have.

Here’s how to start:

• Start with one micro-shift per day

  Example: Instead of saying “I have to do this,” say “I get to train this skill.”

  
  

• Interrupt old thought patterns

  When your brain spirals, stop. Say: “This is just a filter. I choose a better lens.”

  
  

• Anchor pleasure in simple moments

  First sip of coffee? Pause. Feel it. Let your system register pleasure without dopamine spikes.

  
  

• Rewire your RAS intentionally

  Every night, write down: 3 wins, 1 thing you loved today, 1 thing you’re proud of.

  
  

• Train your body, not just your brain

  Take a cold shower. Do pushups. Breathe deep. Interrupt comfort patterns physically.

  
  

AVOID THIS:

• Waiting for “inspiration”

  Feeling different comes after acting different. Not the other way around.

  
  

• Hiding behind self-help content

  You don’t need 10 books. You need 10 days of consistent change.

  
  

• Complaining about what’s “missing”

  Your brain follows attention. Complaints train it to keep scanning for lack.

  
  

• Thinking your circumstances are “the problem”

  It’s not your job. Not your city. Not your schedule. It’s your lens.

5. SPECIAL CONSIDERATIONS

This shift isn’t just about just your mindset, it’s about reclaiming your experience of being alive.

Let’s bring this closer to home.

Maybe you’re the high performer.

Everyone calls you “driven,” but secretly, you’re tired of your own standards.

You crush goals, but feel nothing. You’re on autopilot. You keep checking your to-do list hoping it’ll finally feel like progress, but all you see is pressure. You say “yes” because that’s who you’ve always been. But deep down, you just want to breathe.

Or maybe you’re the parent.

You love your kids, but somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling like yourself.

Every day feels like a loop. No one sees your effort. You’re constantly putting out fires, wiping spills, making decisions, and you’re not sure when you last felt joy for you. You catch yourself daydreaming about disappearing for 48 hours just to be quiet.

But you’d never say that out loud.

Maybe you’re a coach or entrepreneur.

You’re doing work that matters. You’re building. But lately? You feel numb.

You’re scrolling instead of creating. You’re procrastinating on what you used to love. The thing that used to light you up now feels like obligation.

You’re still posting, selling, doing the thing, but inside, you’re wondering, “Is this it?”

Or maybe…You’re simply a good person.

You’re not lost. You’re not broken. You’re just not excited anymore.

Life feels like it’s on 70% volume. Nothing’s really wrong, but something’s missing, and you can’t put your finger on it. You wake up, and a little voice whispers:

“There has to be more than this.”

Here’s the truth:

There is more.

But it’s not in a different job, or a new city, or some miracle breakthrough.

It’s in how you experience what’s already here.

Your life doesn’t need a full renovation.

It needs a new filter. A nervous system reset. A daily pattern shift.

That’s what this blog is about.

So wherever you’re at, just know:

It’s not your life that needs to change.

It’s your system for experiencing it.

6. THE FINAL TAKEAWAY

You are one small shift away from a radically different life, without changing a single external thing.

And that shift isn’t magic.

It’s science.

It’s nervous system training.

It’s discipline.

It’s perspective.

What you choose to focus on, becomes your reality.

And if your current lens is built on “not enough,” “too late,” or “someday”…

You’re not just delaying happiness.

You’re rejecting it in real time.

So here’s the challenge:

Start today.

Shift something small.

And watch how it unlocks something huge.

Because in the end

What you’re not changing, you’re choosing.

- Sjoerd